Do you secretly long for the closeness and love your relationship started out with? If so, you’re not alone. Many people feel the same way about their long-term love relationship. You may feel separated or disconnected from your partner. The way you look at each other may have changed. You probably still share a lot of friendship and cooperation, but little or no passion seems to be left.

If you recognize this scenario, we have great news for you! Passion that has died can be rekindled. By refocusing and looking at your partner with new eyes, this is possible. Believe it or not, the place to start is actually outside the bedroom.

Here are 5 easy steps to start turning up the heat and putting more life back into your relationship….

1.Perhaps trite, the advice to “never go to bed angry,” is very true. Whether couples have been married 30, 40, or even 50 years, this is the advice we hear the most. When issues come up causing disconnect, make the time and talk about them.

2. Give generously your heart-felt gratitude and compliments. Sincere thanks and appreciation can draw you closer to each other and make you feel uplifted. Be aware of the tendency to follow thank yous with criticism. Allow the gratitude to be fully enjoyed.

3.Never stop getting to know each other. You can always learn something new about your loved one, no matter the number of years you’ve been together. Don't assume you know all there is to know about him or her.

4.Kindness is vital. Unfortunately, many couples say that they love each other but then act unkindly towards the other. Choosing kind words and being considerate are just two ways you can be kind. Regardless of how long you’ve been together, treat your partner as the VIP he or she is.

5.No matter how busy or tired you are, keep your heart open. Listen and try to understand your partner. Resist making assumptions and continue to share what is important to you. These are all examples of opening your heart.

These 5 easy steps are just a few of the things that bring us closer and help us to make our relationship passionate, alive and filled with love.

Don’t forget that love is a choice we can open up to in any moment. By choosing where to focus your attention, you can choose love in your life.

Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more tips on turning up the heat in your love relationship, sign up for their free mini-course at