When you decide to get a divorce it is more than just your relationship with your spouse that is impacted. Your relationships with your extended family, your immediate family and your spouse's family are all going to be impacted. This is why it is important to sit down with everyone involved and to discuss things.

Talking to your in-laws, especially about your failed relationship with their son or daughter is going to be difficult. However, if you have children with your spouse then this discussion can be an important bridge builder for after your divorce when extended family relationships are stressed. Your kids need their grandparents in their lives so it is important to make an effort to maintain ties with the in-laws even after you get divorced.

If you need advice about talking with your in-laws about your divorce from their child then you can turn to many resources. Your family's religious leader is a great resource to turn to, especially when dealing with both children and divorce. They can help to facilitate discussions and they can also help provide you with the moral and emotional support that you need.

If you are not religious then a family counselor can be a great resource for you to use. In this case you can work with your spouse to find teh best startegy for approaching both sets of in-laws. They can also set up a group counseling session where the discussion with the in-laws can be facilitated by the counselor. This is a good option if you are worried about possible conflicts or arguments that may arise during the conversation.

Some couples will find that they are perfectly able to handle this difficult conversation on their own. In this case you will want to prepare for this discussion before you have it. This preparation will involve outlining what you need to say and what you want to say. Finally you will want to provide information to the in-laws that explains how their roles will remain the same or will change in regards to the grandkids.

No matter how supportive or combative the in-laws may be when you talk about your divorce, it is important to set boundaries. Boundaries need to be set for both the conversation and for the post-divorce relationships. For example, you may want to create rules for the grandparents that prevent them from bad mouthing the ex-daughter in-law or son-in-law in front of the grandkids. The boundaries will be established to help make keeping the extended family ties strong and meaningful.